This Year's Model of Humanity

I've been thinking some more about my reluctance to buy into clear canon relationships, like Buffy/Angel or John/Aeryn.

I don't believe in the concepts of 'soulmates'. I think that falling in love has a lot to do with circumstances and timing. And coincidence and luck. I don't believe that two people are fated to be together No Matter What. I like looking at the 'what if's. If John met Chiana first, would he have fallen for her? Chiana was introduced way after John had begun falling for Aeryn. Buffy fell in love with Big, Dark, and Cryptic. Would she have fallen for Angel if she'd known he was a vampire right off the bat?

I think that the big romantic love stories are interesting but I can't believe in them. I do believe that some people 'match' well, but that doesn't mean that there is only one person out there who is your perfect love. Because no one is perfect, no love is perfect.

And when someone or something (like a tv show) tells me that this is the Only Pairng That Can Fit, I rebel. I like to choose my pairings on who in the show I think will work together well. I could never see Buffy/Angel working out happily, so I couldn't get the big attachment.

Of course, Smallville is different because it's a guaranteed unhappy ending. Which is why I like reading stories that twist that ending. Because if Clark could get past his issues and Lex could get past his, I think that they could work, yeah.

But I get why they like to do the soulmate thing among mostly incompatible people: it makes for good drama. Whereas, I want the characters to be happy, so I try to think of the people who could be happy together, without needing to go through all the dren that tv couples go through.

Oh, and on a totally different note, I'll be leaving for my dad's in a couple of hours. I'll probably go over to jic's around 5. Hey, Jo, if that doesn't work for you, you know my dad's number.