Life; also BSG

[butterfly]

Oh, fuck. So, today is the first. Of February. It's funny how time just sorta... passes. Anyway, I tried to do the crack_van last month and wow, was that a failure. I recced two fics and then managed to never rec again.

But, to be perfectly honest, it's been that kind of month. I still have comments from the last week in December to respond to, not including all the stuff that I haven't done in January. In any case, I have today off, and it's no longer January, so I'm going to try to reply to those comments today.

January was bad last year, too, now that I think about it. Perhaps I should place a warning on my journal next December: high chance poster will not respond until February.

I went to an Al-Alon meeting last Friday. I cried, which I always hate, so I'm torn about going back, because I suspect that I would cry again.

With regards to the Baltar/Roslin/Adama/Gaeta plotline, I found it fascinating and look forward to see more. I don't really want to expand on my thoughts regarding it until after whatever happens with the trial, though.

As far as I can tell, I'm only the second person on my flist who's rooting for Lee/Dee. Which is to say, I believed Lee when he said he loved Dee -- partly because of his truly pathetic moment in the hallway where, drunk, he panics and flails about looking for his wedding ring, partly because of the scene at the end, and partly because when Kara lays the option in front of him, he doesn't have an answer for her. Lee is a fucked up guy, but he always gets considerably more fucked up after spending time with Kara. He's right when he says that Dee is good for him. And, stupid as it sounds, sometimes people really don't realize how much something or someone means to them until they are right up against the brink of losing it.

Is he good for Dee? Hard to say. That's the real question in play here, for me. And I don't think they've answered it, one way or another.

I do think that Kara and Lee are actively bad for each other -- they make each other into worse people, the closer they get. And I find myself... incapable of cheering for that type of relationship (plus, the brother connection still weirds me out).

I am rather curious about the notion that, though Kara and Lee are both fucked up, because Kara embraces her fucked-up-ness, she's a better person. The idea that Kara being able to call herself a 'two-timing bitch' makes her healthier is... hmm, odd to me. By saying that, she's also trying to make sure that no one will hold her up to a higher standard than the one she's currently living -- Lee may not be living up to his own standards, but he's trying. And, to me, he certainly seems fully aware of his own fucked-up state -- he just doesn't use it as an excuse for why he can never change.

Mind you, while I was supporting the marriages of Lee/Dee and Kara/Sam, I was thrilled when I heard that Cally and the Chief had been fighting. But their relationship has always creeped me out -- marrying the woman who killed your last SO is kinda... icky. Seriously, I don't think that that'll ever stop creeping me out.

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I do think that Kara and Lee are actively bad for each other -- they make each other into worse people, the closer they get. And I find myself... incapable of cheering for that type of relationship (plus, the brother connection still weirds me out).

Seriously. I do not get what is so romantic or compelling about two people who are cruel to each other. They BEAT on each other to deal with their issues! BAD. SO BAD. And there's the infidelity and dishonesty.

I am rather curious about the notion that, though Kara and Lee are both fucked up, because Kara embraces her fucked-up-ness, she's a better person. The idea that Kara being able to call herself a 'two-timing bitch' makes her healthier is... hmm, odd to me.

Yes. Kara is very blunt about her issues, but I agree that it's less of honesty and more of 'this is who I am so don't expect anything better.' Which is not good, in my opinion. It's why she and Lee just don't work. He can't accept her for who she is and she can't deal with a romantic partner who won't turn a blind eye to her problems.

[butterfly.livejournal.com]

Seriously. I do not get what is so romantic or compelling about two people who are cruel to each other. They BEAT on each other to deal with their issues! BAD. SO BAD. And there's the infidelity and dishonesty.

Mmmhmm. They really have such an unhealthy relationship and it ends up poisoning their other relationships, too.

Yes. Kara is very blunt about her issues, but I agree that it's less of honesty and more of 'this is who I am so don't expect anything better.' Which is not good, in my opinion. It's why she and Lee just don't work. He can't accept her for who she is and she can't deal with a romantic partner who won't turn a blind eye to her problems.

*nods*

They don't mesh. They conflict, and while that might cause sparks, it definitely causes pain.

[wanderlustlover]

I have to agree on a lot of these points. Being a past Billy/Dualla shipper, it's hard for me to see Duala/Lee in the misery it is. Dee truly loves him and he's right she is good for him, but I can't yet see a reason why he is good for him. Duala is the voice of conscience for the Adama's. She's been Bill's voice to gather the fleet together and she pulled Lee back together to be himself.....but I haven't seen a shred of evidence he's good for her in any aspect.

And while predicted all the marriages not working out the first episode of the season when they were mentioned, the Cally/Chief one wigs me the most. She's like the little sister of everyone, she would have taken care of him during the broken state and it's too easy for me to make bad things out of their relationship. Especially with the killing the SO and being highly, obviously, infatuated with the Cheif since season one. I know it'll end, and I think it'll help Boomer come back to her senses (maybe?), but I know it's going to rend Cally apart, too......which who knows may finally make for enough to turn her into a real, whole person through that process.

[butterfly.livejournal.com]

Cally/Chief squicks me beyond the telling of it. Seriously, I cannot get over it. Probably doesn't help that Boomer was my favorite character in the miniseries and, even now, manages to be one of the characters that I ache the most for, despite her limited screentime, but I like to think that Cally would creep me out even if I hadn't liked Boomer at all.

[trepkos.livejournal.com]

Is this the first time you've mentioned Al-Anon?
I can't believe I missed it ...
Sorry to hear you have this problem.
I hope you are getting the support you need.

[butterfly.livejournal.com]

It's the first time that I've ever gone. My parents both drink, though, and have, off and on, for longer than I've been alive.

[unoriginal-liz.livejournal.com]

Hi there...I'm a long time lurker, first time 'don't be such a wimp and post' poster. I just wanted to say how much I've enjoyed your vids and your thoughts on Buffy and Due South and QAF and Doctor Who etc. I know less than nothing about vidding (which is why I've been procrastinating about feedback), so all I can really say is how much I loved 'My Hit Song' (because yes, Rose is *just* *that* *awesome*), and 'Human Remains', which just made me MISS Rose more than I already did (I didn't think that was possible, but... there you go). 'Pavlov's Bell' was just wonderful, and 'Beautiful Song' just totally blew me away. A Buffy/Xander vid! One that shows just how wonderful and messed up and strong their relationship is! Just lovely.

So, just to say thank you for all the enjoyment I got out of your lovely vids...and on a completely unrelated note, do you mind if I friend you? (there's absolutely no obligation to friend back).

Thanks again!

[butterfly.livejournal.com]

Hey! It's really great to meet you. It's always great to meet another fannish sort. I'm so glad that you like my vids! And you're a Rose fan? That makes you all kinds of awesome -- I absolutely adore her (and my wonderful Buffy, of course)!

Thanks for all the wonderful feedback! I'm glad that you like my vids. Buffy/Xander is my OTP for the Jossverse, and I'm thrilled that I could express both the good and bad in their relationship. Yay!

And feel absolutely free to friend me -- I'm flattered.