Hmm. This reminds me of Spike.

Article from Heartless Bitches International on Why 'Nice Guys' are often such losers.

This ultimately boils down to the fact that Nice Guys don't like themselves. Is it any wonder women don't like them? In order to truly love someone else, you must first love yourself. Too often Nice Guys mistake obsession for "love".

Which, actually, I think Spike got past at the end. But he was definitely in that territory for quite a while.

ETA: Thanks to deifire for posting the links originally.