And one thing I'm especially annoyed with lately in the SW fandom is how expression of an opinion, a peeve, or a rant somehow equals being pretentious. It makes my face go desky.
That is frustrating. Personally, I seem to slip under the radar of wanky people, possibly because I always try to be diplomatic in the extreme (Because being emotional and letting people get to me makes me feel like I'm weak. Ah, issues.), possibly because I'm just not interesting enough. Some people are just lightning rods, while other people aren't. I've only had problems on lj with one other person, which is a pretty good ratio.
Word. I've been turned off from well-written fics before, because I wtf'ing all through the characterization and dialogue. Characterization is the most important thing to me. You can fuck up how to spell the Death Star, and I'll get over it. If you fuck up Obi-Wan or Anakin, I'm out. Granted, it's all in my head, and I'm not saying right -- but it's all subjective perception.
*tries to picture a misspelling of Death Star*
My brain hurts now.
But yes, I agree totally.
Luckily, my friendship with the girl I crushed on was completely not physical, so i didn't have your confusion. I had that with my ex, because we were very tactile and very emotionally intense (like Anakin/Obi-Wan co-dependent intense, complete with nasty break-up -- had I a lightsaber, she so would have been delimbed). I'm not normally a tactile person, either, so if you have me being cuddly, J. is going to be one confused bunny.
Wow, that's pretty intense, yo.
Up to now, I've managed to avoid deep emotional relationships. I'm still trying very hard to, actually. Because, well, they terrify me (my parents had a truly nasty divorce). That may be part of why I'm so drawn to those intense dynamic in so many different couples. Because that edge is fascinating to me because there are a lot of ways that I don't understand it. So, I keep approaching it from different directions, asking, "this is how these characters respond, what does that say about the situation?".
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Date: 2005-08-31 04:59 pm (UTC)That is frustrating. Personally, I seem to slip under the radar of wanky people, possibly because I always try to be diplomatic in the extreme (Because being emotional and letting people get to me makes me feel like I'm weak. Ah, issues.), possibly because I'm just not interesting enough. Some people are just lightning rods, while other people aren't. I've only had problems on lj with one other person, which is a pretty good ratio.
Word. I've been turned off from well-written fics before, because I wtf'ing all through the characterization and dialogue. Characterization is the most important thing to me. You can fuck up how to spell the Death Star, and I'll get over it. If you fuck up Obi-Wan or Anakin, I'm out. Granted, it's all in my head, and I'm not saying right -- but it's all subjective perception.
*tries to picture a misspelling of Death Star*
My brain hurts now.
But yes, I agree totally.
Luckily, my friendship with the girl I crushed on was completely not physical, so i didn't have your confusion. I had that with my ex, because we were very tactile and very emotionally intense (like Anakin/Obi-Wan co-dependent intense, complete with nasty break-up -- had I a lightsaber, she so would have been delimbed). I'm not normally a tactile person, either, so if you have me being cuddly, J. is going to be one confused bunny.
Wow, that's pretty intense, yo.
Up to now, I've managed to avoid deep emotional relationships. I'm still trying very hard to, actually. Because, well, they terrify me (my parents had a truly nasty divorce). That may be part of why I'm so drawn to those intense dynamic in so many different couples. Because that edge is fascinating to me because there are a lot of ways that I don't understand it. So, I keep approaching it from different directions, asking, "this is how these characters respond, what does that say about the situation?".