butterfly | (no subject)

Okay, I originally posted this at TWoP:

Going to therapy? Does wonders for clearing away anger and pain. Everything is caused, whatever's happened in someone's life influences how they feel about Lance, stuff like that. Very cleansing.

I do wish that I could give him several million hugs. But I've managed to get perspective. People who hate Lance hate him because of their entire life experience. And ditto with the love. I'm good.

It was just... felt the same as have hearing people say mean things about my parents. And I've always been one to suppress my emotion before and y'all really don't need to hear my life story.

I love you guys, I love *NSYNC, and I love Lance.

Do you guys think that that implies that I think that people who hate Lance are screwed up? Because that's not what I was saying at all but Bari had this response:

You don't really mean this, do you?? Because I doubt people that don't know him personally but just tease him on message boards aren't lashing out due to a jacked-up childhood or envy. It's just snarking.

Hating a member of a boy-group, or teasing him or any of the others, is not a symptom of ANY kind of self-hate or hate for your life experience.

Good Lord...

And I don't see how she got that from what I posted.

This was my futher edit on my post:

Well, considered how screwed up my own life is, I wouldn't ever pass judgment on someone else's. Well, I'd try not to. I mean that everything that you learn and absorb informs all that you do and feel. I was trying to say that I'm accepting your feelings of Lance as valid for you and mine as valid for me. I wasn't attacking you. I can't see how you got that from my post, but I hope this edit clears it up.

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

I don't think that you are actually reading what I'm saying. I'm not putting a spin on it. I'm saying that people prefer one person or another because of their history.

I hate Spike because of my entire life experience has led me to looking at him in a certain way.

That's what I'm saying. I'm not saying that it's bad.

I know, but the way you are saying it has it sounding bad. My history doesn't make me not like Lance. I don't like Lance just because I don't like him. That's it.

Yeah, but the reasons that you don't like him are all wrapped up in who you are. Just the same as the reasons that I don't like whoever/whatever I don't like.

Fine. BElieve that if you want. My point that I'm trying to make is, you can't tell people that. It borders on offensive.

Why? Why does saying your past affects your present offend people?

It's the way you worded it that sounds offensive, and people don't want to be told why they feel the way they feel. You're not allowed to make those decisions for them.

How am I telling people why they feel the way they do?

The cause is sufficent. First rule of the universe. Nothing happens unless it's caused. Therefore, if you dislike Lance, you have been caused to do so by your past. It's science.

I just don't see why that's offensive.

I didn't say that anyone had a bad past that caused them to dislike Lance, just that they had a past. Why is the bad assumed? I certainly wasn't thinking that Mariah or Bari had had a bad life that caused them to dislike Lance. But their past did have a huge bearing on their feelings for him. Just as mine does.

I mean, it's no surprise to me that I love Lance. I tend to fall for basses and Lance physically reminds me of one of my first crushes.

Look, I don't want to talk about it anymore. Just drop it.

(no subject)

Re:

Re:

Re:

Re:

Re:

Re:

Re:

Re: