Honey, I'm sorry that this is getting to you so much. But after I read your initial post, I was kinda put off too, like Bari, and granted, I think Bari didn't need to be that harsh in her reply to your post, but I know why she did it:

"People who hate Lance hate him because of their entire life experience"

It's kind of harsh to say that people hate Lance because they've had a bad life. Bari was somewhat right...you are kinda blaming Lance-hate on bad childhoods. And I don't necessarily hate Lance...he's not one of my favorites, though, but I don't not like him because I was poor as a kid and didn't have all the possibilities he did.

I'm not saying this to offend you, I'm just trying to make you realize why Bari reacted the way she reacted.