We're talking about completely different things, aren't we?

Entirely possible. Most arguments tend to be a case of that, I've found. It's frustrating, though, trying to figure out exactly where the other person's vocabulary differs from yours.

You also have to realize that your views aren't exactly shipper standard

It's the standard in the community that I hang out with and with the shippers that I spend time with. So, you can see why it's less than enjoyable to have people assume things about me -- because, for me, the things that you're assuming have pretty much nothing to do with my shipping community.