I agree wholeheartedly. It was rape, and yet, I think Owen is not a rapist. Not in the sense that rapists get off on control and pain, as opposed to sex. Owen is an idiot, but a smart one, so I have hope that once he's made aware of the issues he'll be able to understand and change his ways.

As for the kiss, I'm probably the only one in fandom who thought Owen kissed her to shut her up and since she went with it, he kept going. I suppose people see exactly what they want to see, and that includes me.